How good is foreplay? A must-have foreplay guide for beginners

1. Lingering eyes: Looking into each other's eyes for 3 seconds is more attractive than saying "I love you"
Don't underestimate the power of eyes, it is actually the most direct "desire switch".

When you get close to your partner, don't rush to kiss him/her. Hold his/her chin gently with your palm, use your fingertips to slightly force him/her to raise his/her head, then look into his/her eyes, slowly move from pupil to lips, and then back to eyes - this "triangular gaze" can instantly activate the other person's nerve endings.

Tips: When looking into each other's eyes, slightly raise the corners of your mouth, with a faint smile, which is more contagious than being serious. If the other person is shy and dodges, gently stroke his/her earlobe with your thumb, and gently say "Your eyes are so beautiful" to easily resolve the embarrassment.

Why it works: When looking into each other's eyes, the brain will secrete phenylethylamine, this "love hormone" can make people feel moved, and the slow movement of eyes will create a "sense of anticipation", which is more exciting than a direct kiss.

2. Touch with fingertips: from cheek to earlobe
Many people touch the chest or waist right away, which makes the other person nervous. Try starting from the "safe zone":

Use the index and middle fingertips to gently brush across the TA's cheek like butterfly wings, sliding from the cheekbone to the jawline, and then around the ear.

Note! The earlobe is one of the most sensitive parts of women. Gently kneading the earlobe with the fingertips is more gentle than directly holding it in the mouth.

Avoidance guide: Don't rub it hard, the skin will instinctively shrink when it is over-stimulated. You can warm your hands before touching, and the warm fingertips will double the touch!

3. Back massage: from shoulder blades to waistline
Tension is the biggest killer of foreplay, and back massage can instantly remove TA's defenses.

Let TA lie sideways or lie on the bed, start with the shoulder blades, press in circles with the palms, slowly move down along both sides of the spine, and apply a little force when you reach the waist.

Advanced techniques:

Use the knuckles of your thumb to "slide" along both sides of the spine, alternating between light and heavy strokes like playing the piano;

When pressing the coccyx, your fingers suddenly scratch lightly. This "unexpected touch" will make TA unable to help but curl up, instantly breaking the stiff atmosphere;

When massaging, put your face close to TA's hair, breathe in gently and say, "You smell so good." Olfactory stimulation can deepen intimacy.

Scientific basis: There are a large number of "pressure receptors" on the skin of the back. Gentle pressure will stimulate the brain to secrete endorphins. This "natural painkiller" can make people feel happy and relaxed, laying the foundation for subsequent contact.

4. Inner thigh: from knee to groin
The inner thigh is a "sensitive zone" that many people ignore, but it is easy to appear abrupt if you touch it directly. The correct way is:

Start with the palm of your hand above the knee, gently hold the thigh, with the thumb on the inside and four fingers on the outside, and slowly slide upward like holding a steering wheel. When you reach the root of the thigh, pause for 2 seconds, and then tap a few times with your fingertips.

Playing hard to get:

Stop touching about 5 cm from the groin, and then move back to your knees and start again. This repeated "approach and leave" will make the other person want to approach you actively. Remember to observe the other person's reaction. If his/her knees are slightly open, it is a signal that you can go further.

Note: If the other person is wearing jeans, rubbing through the fabric will make it more "frictional"; if it is bare legs, you can put a little lip balm on your hands to increase the slippery feeling but not greasy.

5. Breathing synchronization: Use breath to "warm up" intimacy
The ultimate secret of foreplay is actually "rhythm resonance".

When you get close to his/her ear, don't rush to speak, but deliberately "take a deep breath" a few times to let him/her feel the frequency of your breathing. Then, follow his/her breathing rhythm and slowly adjust your inhalation and exhalation - when the two people breathe in sync, the body will naturally produce a tacit understanding like "telepathy".

Specific scenarios:

When kissing the forehead, gently rub the other person's hairline with your nose, and make a nasal sound of "hmm~". This low-frequency vibration will be transmitted to the nerves along the skin. When rubbing ears together, breathe in his ear, stop halfway through a love word, such as "Do you know..." Then bite the earlobe with your teeth, and let the breath speak the rest of the words.

When many people learn foreplay skills, they always focus on "how to make him wet/hard", but forget that intimate interaction is a matter for two people. Rather than forcing it, it is more important to pay attention to the other person's reaction: the earlobe turns red, the fingertips curl up, and swallow saliva unconsciously... These are all "like" signals sent by the body.

Warm reminder: It is more appropriate to control the foreplay time to 15-20 minutes, and don't rush to move to the next step. After the end, press your forehead against the other person's forehead and say "I'm so happy to be with you" seriously, which can touch people's hearts more than any skills.