What to do when you are tired of sex? How to make you love more and more

Researchers have found in a 10-year study that in the first three years of marriage, the frequency of sexual life of couples is generally high, and then the frequency of sexual life will decrease significantly, and this situation of "the longer you love, the less you do it" is not an isolated case.

Why do you want to "applaud for love" less and less the longer you are together? Is it because you don't love it anymore?

What should I do if I am tired of sex? How can I love it more and more?

1. The reasons may be caused by these 4 aspects

1. Decreased physical fitness

Sexual life is a very physically demanding sport. With age, human body functions will decline year by year.
Let me give you a sad example: a man around 25 years old may rest for 20 minutes and then have sex again. Seven times a night happens at this age. And men around 50 years old need to rest for at least a week, or even longer...

Especially now that life is stressful, work is busy, and there is a lack of exercise, it is no exaggeration to say that the age of male function decline has come to 30 years old in advance.

2. Decreased sexual attraction

Scientists have done a classic mouse experiment:

Put a male mouse and a female mouse in a cage. At first, the two mice mate frequently, but after a few weeks, the number of matings becomes less and less. But when the female mouse is removed and replaced by another female mouse, the male mouse becomes sexually excited again and frequently asks for sex.

Just like before a couple gets married, when they meet, they are full of thoughts about how to strip each other's clothes and wish to spend 24 hours in bed; after marriage, looking at each other's naked body is like looking at their own body without feeling.

Sexual life gradually becomes a task, rather than a pleasant and intimate experience.

What to do if you are tired of sex life? How to make love more and more

This is a very common marginal diminishing effect in daily life. After a long time together, the novelty of each other will gradually fade, the threshold of stimulation will become higher and higher, happiness will become less, and naturally it will feel less "attractive" than before.

3. Family factors

In the relationship between husband and wife, there is not only sex, but also daily life of firewood, rice, oil and salt. In daily life, couples will inevitably have friction and conflicts.

If the conflict is not resolved in time, it is easy to have a gap, which will also affect the "sexual interest" of both parties.

4. There is a climax difference between the two parties

Men: 5 minutes of foreplay can make them "rock-hard";

Women: It takes an average of 10-20 minutes of foreplay to get into the mood;

Men: Girls will like it if it is big, long, and strong;

Women: Gentle rubbing and slow twisting will make them feel more;

Men: Afterwards, they smoke a cigarette and fall asleep;

Women: Be gentle when needed;

Men: From entry to ejaculation, the average time is 6 minutes;

Women: The average time is 15 minutes, and the other party is over before they warm up.

These "climax differences" are the important reasons why many people feel that sex is "boring", especially for women.

Therefore, the decrease in sexual frequency is caused by many reasons, but it is not the only criterion for judging "love or not".

What should I do if I am tired of sex? How to make love more and more

Second, how to change the "lower frequency of sex year by year"?
1. Create some freshness

Research shows that 85% of men admit that sticking to the rules makes them feel boring.

Break the rules and try new ways. For example: change the posture, change to a strange and romantic place, use "small toys" that have never been used before, these are very effective for freshness.

2. Increase communication

Although some couples have been married for many years, they don't communicate as much as ordinary friends around them, and they don't even know each other's sensitive points and comfortable postures.

So, you might as well tell each other openly, for example: the posture you have always wanted to try, the time you want to have sex, or some small habits.

3. Try to be in the same frequency

Data show that the average orgasm time for men is 6 minutes, while the average for women is more than 15 minutes. The different frequencies of both parties can easily lead to both parties not wanting to applaud even if they are in love.

There are many ways to make the eroticism synchronized, such as increasing the foreplay time so that women can warm up in advance; and using Naimer delay spray, which old drivers understand.

3. In a marriage relationship, sex is not a simple physiological need
Sex is like a language, a way of communication between a couple. The better the communication, the deeper the intimacy. It allows us to experience the satisfaction of being accepted both physically and mentally, and the beauty of the fusion of two people.

And these satisfaction and wonderful feelings, in turn, affect our daily lives, making us more willing to listen, respect, and understand each other's difficulties.

Sex is something that we should spend more time exploring.